The way through is exposure. Safe exposure.
You do not wait to feel ready. You step toward the thing in a dose you can carry, with people who can hold it. Safe is the whole word. Flooding breaks people. Paced contact rebuilds them.
The read you are stuck with is a belief that never got corrected.
The anxious read, the trauma read, the shame read, each was a conclusion drawn once, under fire, and held too tight ever since, because it was never safely put back to the test. It is not the truth. It is an old guess that never got to update.
Interfere, then examine what comes back.
Step into the thing, then read the result and let it move the belief. New evidence is the only thing that corrects an old conclusion. Failure is data here, not a verdict. The crash tells you exactly what to adjust.
Then again.
Each safe pass moves the belief closer to what is true, and widens what you can hold. You build the bridge by walking it, and the walking is the repair.
Same method at every stage. Boundary, predict, and action all heal one way: safe contact, examined, repeated, until the belief matches the truth.